There are two kinds of situations - one in which you are the doer, and the other in which you are the observer. My experiences from last week have made me realize that there is a lot more to family than I thought. Here's a story that describes it.
This week, I attended some wedding functions of one of my friends. Since the friend (actually, the friend's sister) was a common friend with me and my brother, both of us were there in the wedding (and other functions). The two of us have an understanding relationship, but for the most part, we don't talk as much.
Contrary to that, this time in the wedding, we were casual and conversational. That was new to me because I hadn't interacted with my brother a personal level. It felt like the event made us bond better. I observe that more these days when we play Table Tennis in the evening. We talk while we play, and the conversation is usually very personal.
Truth be told, we didn't interact a lot before. And, this change is something I like.
The next story is about my Mom . In the same wedding in which my friend's sister was getting married, my Mom was emotional about the girl's marriage, probably because we are two boys in the family and she doesn't have a daughter.
So, the detail with which she was observing the bride as her own was fascinating!
Consider this: when the bride was walking towards the Varmala ceremony (garland exchange), she was concerned about the look of her dress, asking her to NOT pick it up and let it stay down so that it looks better in the pictures. She wanted the bride to have a better pose while moving.
This kind of personalization is expected when you're in a family, but not so much when you are in someone else's wedding.
This reminds me of a scene from Kal Ho Na Ho, in which Shah Rukh Khan dresses Preeti Zinta for a date with Saif Ali Khan. On her way out, Shah Rukh Khan unties her hair, because Saif considers that Preeti Zinta (Naina) looks prettier that way.
These changes are subtle, but the detail orientation shown in such experiences highlight the importance they have in the minds of some people. It shows love and consideration. I felt the same when my Mom was caring for my friend's sister.
So, a few personal experiences that I felt like sharing today.
Until next time, stay warm and cozy. It's winters.